My 2015 Intentions

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Happy New Year, friends! I don’t know what it is about 2015, but I’m feeling like it’s going to be a good one — a total dazzler. It just feels different for some reason. Does anyone else feel the same way? I know everyone’s experience is different, but I know so many people who have felt like they have had an uphill battle for the past few years and I am definitely one of them. I believe in trying to stay positive and moving forward, but sometimes, despite your best effort and good intentions, you just get emotionally jumped in the alley of life. Over and over again — with sucker punches from all kinds of unexpected directions. No inspo quote in the world can save you when this happens — you just have to get through it.

Something I’ve been thinking about a lot is that somewhere along the line I stopped doing quite a few things that actually make me very happy, so this is what’s at the core of my intentions for 2015. I’ve had a quartet of emotionally and physically grueling years and I am really looking forward to feeling lighter while I shuffle priorities and open new chapters. Then you just have to see how it all shakes out, I guess. I’d love to hear what you’re all working on!

MY 2015 INTENTIONS…

Make more time to do things that make me happy. It really helps to give me the headspace to do everything else… and to feel present, alive, content and connected to other people.

Start the adoption process. There is a lot more to say about this and, after starting about 1,000 posts to talk about this very personal subject over the years, I’m pretty close to actually talking about it. Needless to say, this topic is thick with all kinds of emotions and a big part of it has been mourning the loss of the dreams we had of how we’d grow our family. It’s so loaded in so many ways and our hearts have really been through the wringer — repeatedly. I do think I’ve learned a lot that could help other people and, more selfishly, it might be nice to not feel so alienated. It’s been brutal. I am really excited (and nervous) about the next steps — maybe some of you out there will have some words of wisdom.

Spend more time on personal care. I’m just talking about simple things like making sure to use my humidifier every night because it’s good for my skin and sinuses and I get a more restful sleep. Spend more time getting ready and really do my hair, do more face masks, paint my nails, get massages more often, stretch, etc…

Get to know my camera. I invested in a good camera a while back and I still haven’t taken the time to get to really read the manual and play with it. I’m very eager to get to know my new buddy, wander, snap and share. I have fun plans.

Update my Photoshop and learn how to do more. I would love to go to NY and have my friend Anna teach more Photoshop skillz, but until then I need to just watch a bunch of lynda.com videos. Plus, I’d still like to get a Wacom tablet to play with.

Go for bike rides. Lots of them. Drive out to the coast and pretty country roads to get a chance to ride outside of the city. I have a beautiful bike and need to show her a good time.

Plan vacations. Like, actual days totally off. In a row. In advance. Sounds crazy, I know.

Decorate and renovate. Get a plan together and prioritize endless house projects and keep adding to that monster summer yard sale pile as we go. I AM SO EXCITED TO GET THE HOUSE PUT TOGETHER! I love this process — even though it has to be slower than we’d like.

Accept what I am not. So many things, but here are a few examples: 1. I’m not a selfie-posting person. I like seeing all the lovely faces from time to time, but I find it odd when people fill 90% of their feed with selfies and photos taken of them by other people. At times I’ve felt like I should change this about myself, but it would feel way too awkward. I do like sharing what I’m doing, my city and my home though! 2. I’m not a person who is immediately flattered when approached by large corporations — another thing that I’ve mulled over and over. There will always be some exceptions, but I’m most jazzed when I get to work with indie makers, shops and businesses. 3. I’m not a fan of things getting too bland or aspirational. I get overwhelmed when people mimic each other and things all start to look the same. I like too many styles and colors. 4. I’m not someone who can say “Yes” to everything and I feel a lot of guilt about that. I need to get over it.

Talk about more personal stuff. On my blog and in general — just integrate a deeper personal perspective when I feel like it. I really don’t want to take a sudden swerve into TMI — just a bit more of my personal life, experiences and thoughts about it all. I keep meeting people who don’t want to ruffle any feathers by addressing what’s in front of them and I find that counterproductive when the silence goes beyond just being tactful and courteous. That’s how things get boring, people glaze over and things like “Normcore” happen. Blech.

Remember that I am loved. Even if I’m down on myself or others are.

THINGS THAT I LOVE AND NEED TO DO MUCH MORE OF…

Family time. Spend more time hanging out without distractions.

Hang out with friends. Host and attend gatherings. Reach out more. Travel to see buddies. I used to be more extroverted, but hard personal stuff, being hurt and overcommitting myself has made me go from ENFP to INFP over the years. I’d like to be more social again.

Travel more. Most of us can’t afford to travel as often or as far as we’d like, but even little day trips do so much for my disposition. I really do want to get to Brittany, Vienna, Antwerp, Malta, the English countryside and Ireland though. And MN, NY and VT.

Walk walk walk. It’s my favorite form of exercise and I need to make time to do it daily for long stretches. Headphones and a pretty, long route to a good cup of coffee or a record store is all I need.

Go antiquing and thrifting. I do a bit of this regularly, but not an adventurous all-day affair like I used to. My husband is not a fan of this activity and I really miss it. I can sweet talk a pal or go on my own.

Watch more British TV. Brit crime and period dramas fill me with glee. Give me a nana solving crimes on a bicycle or a Maggie Smith anything and I’m a happy girl.

Go out to the movies more. Instead of watching from a sofa. I love going to see old films.

Cook and bake. I find cooking and baking really relaxing and fun. Life gets so busy, you work too much and then putting something together by some kind of reasonable hour has become more of a chore than a joy. I need to make more time a few times a week at least. It helps manage nutrition and portion size too, of course. Must do.

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PHOTOS: 1. Solita Solano and Djuna Barnes in Paris (Maurice Brange, Au Café, 1922) 2. Paris in 1927 by André Kertész.

Comments
26 Responses to “My 2015 Intentions”
  1. Your list is so thoughtful and heartfelt. I’m cheering you on. Wishing you a year filled with even more wonderful things than you expected…

  2. Paula says:

    Your blog was one of the first that I started viewing/reading, and it is nice to hear a bit more about the woman behind Honey Kennedy.
    I empathise with your family dream of not coming into fruition to how you thought/hoped it would. Wishing you a wonderful, fulfilling year.

  3. Sadie says:

    A wonderful and inspiring list. You sounds like my kind of lady!
    Wishing you a smooth and heart-filling adoption process. I have no words of wisdom, other than it sounds like you have some wisdom of your own to share in this area.
    Here’s to 2015!

  4. Betsy says:

    What a beautiful post, Jen. Thank you for sharing your heart with us and inspiring all.

  5. this is a really beautiful post. I hope all your intentions and goals come to fruition in their own gentle way. <3

  6. emily says:

    These are wonderful aspirations, Jen! Best of luck to you!