Happy New Year, friends! I don’t know what it is about 2015, but I’m feeling like it’s going to be a good one — a total dazzler. It just feels different for some reason. Does anyone else feel the same way? I know everyone’s experience is different, but I know so many people who have felt like they have had an uphill battle for the past few years and I am definitely one of them. I believe in trying to stay positive and moving forward, but sometimes, despite your best effort and good intentions, you just get emotionally jumped in the alley of life. Over and over again — with sucker punches from all kinds of unexpected directions. No inspo quote in the world can save you when this happens — you just have to get through it.
Something I’ve been thinking about a lot is that somewhere along the line I stopped doing quite a few things that actually make me very happy, so this is what’s at the core of my intentions for 2015. I’ve had a quartet of emotionally and physically grueling years and I am really looking forward to feeling lighter while I shuffle priorities and open new chapters. Then you just have to see how it all shakes out, I guess. I’d love to hear what you’re all working on!
MY 2015 INTENTIONS…
Make more time to do things that make me happy. It really helps to give me the headspace to do everything else… and to feel present, alive, content and connected to other people.
Start the adoption process. There is a lot more to say about this and, after starting about 1,000 posts to talk about this very personal subject over the years, I’m pretty close to actually talking about it. Needless to say, this topic is thick with all kinds of emotions and a big part of it has been mourning the loss of the dreams we had of how we’d grow our family. It’s so loaded in so many ways and our hearts have really been through the wringer — repeatedly. I do think I’ve learned a lot that could help other people and, more selfishly, it might be nice to not feel so alienated. It’s been brutal. I am really excited (and nervous) about the next steps — maybe some of you out there will have some words of wisdom.
Spend more time on personal care. I’m just talking about simple things like making sure to use my humidifier every night because it’s good for my skin and sinuses and I get a more restful sleep. Spend more time getting ready and really do my hair, do more face masks, paint my nails, get massages more often, stretch, etc…
Get to know my camera. I invested in a good camera a while back and I still haven’t taken the time to get to really read the manual and play with it. I’m very eager to get to know my new buddy, wander, snap and share. I have fun plans.
Update my Photoshop and learn how to do more. I would love to go to NY and have my friend Anna teach more Photoshop skillz, but until then I need to just watch a bunch of lynda.com videos. Plus, I’d still like to get a Wacom tablet to play with.
Go for bike rides. Lots of them. Drive out to the coast and pretty country roads to get a chance to ride outside of the city. I have a beautiful bike and need to show her a good time.
Plan vacations. Like, actual days totally off. In a row. In advance. Sounds crazy, I know.
Decorate and renovate. Get a plan together and prioritize endless house projects and keep adding to that monster summer yard sale pile as we go. I AM SO EXCITED TO GET THE HOUSE PUT TOGETHER! I love this process — even though it has to be slower than we’d like.
Accept what I am not. So many things, but here are a few examples: 1. I’m not a selfie-posting person. I like seeing all the lovely faces from time to time, but I find it odd when people fill 90% of their feed with selfies and photos taken of them by other people. At times I’ve felt like I should change this about myself, but it would feel way too awkward. I do like sharing what I’m doing, my city and my home though! 2. I’m not a person who is immediately flattered when approached by large corporations — another thing that I’ve mulled over and over. There will always be some exceptions, but I’m most jazzed when I get to work with indie makers, shops and businesses. 3. I’m not a fan of things getting too bland or aspirational. I get overwhelmed when people mimic each other and things all start to look the same. I like too many styles and colors. 4. I’m not someone who can say “Yes” to everything and I feel a lot of guilt about that. I need to get over it.
Talk about more personal stuff. On my blog and in general — just integrate a deeper personal perspective when I feel like it. I really don’t want to take a sudden swerve into TMI — just a bit more of my personal life, experiences and thoughts about it all. I keep meeting people who don’t want to ruffle any feathers by addressing what’s in front of them and I find that counterproductive when the silence goes beyond just being tactful and courteous. That’s how things get boring, people glaze over and things like “Normcore” happen. Blech.
Remember that I am loved. Even if I’m down on myself or others are.
THINGS THAT I LOVE AND NEED TO DO MUCH MORE OF…
Family time. Spend more time hanging out without distractions.
Hang out with friends. Host and attend gatherings. Reach out more. Travel to see buddies. I used to be more extroverted, but hard personal stuff, being hurt and overcommitting myself has made me go from ENFP to INFP over the years. I’d like to be more social again.
Travel more. Most of us can’t afford to travel as often or as far as we’d like, but even little day trips do so much for my disposition. I really do want to get to Brittany, Vienna, Antwerp, Malta, the English countryside and Ireland though. And MN, NY and VT.
Walk walk walk. It’s my favorite form of exercise and I need to make time to do it daily for long stretches. Headphones and a pretty, long route to a good cup of coffee or a record store is all I need.
Go antiquing and thrifting. I do a bit of this regularly, but not an adventurous all-day affair like I used to. My husband is not a fan of this activity and I really miss it. I can sweet talk a pal or go on my own.
Watch more British TV. Brit crime and period dramas fill me with glee. Give me a nana solving crimes on a bicycle or a Maggie Smith anything and I’m a happy girl.
Go out to the movies more. Instead of watching from a sofa. I love going to see old films.
Cook and bake. I find cooking and baking really relaxing and fun. Life gets so busy, you work too much and then putting something together by some kind of reasonable hour has become more of a chore than a joy. I need to make more time a few times a week at least. It helps manage nutrition and portion size too, of course. Must do.
PHOTOS: 1. Solita Solano and Djuna Barnes in Paris (Maurice Brange, Au Café, 1922) 2. Paris in 1927 by André Kertész.
Hello! Here are some VSCO cam iPhone snaps of my life and home lately here in Portland. If you follow me on Instagram and Facebook, you may have seen some of these! Birthday cake, beautiful flowers, a golden cloud, iced coffee, Zelda snoozing, Zelda not helping me change the sheets on the guest bed, summer veggies, dreamy French soap, crystal gawking, totes corner, fancy honey, a memorable Cali sundae, more iced coffee, leftover birthday cake…
➔ SOME THINGS YOU MAY HAVE MISSED…
✚ Carole Lombard brings the balloons + LOTS OF LOVELY LINKS!
✚ Jane Birkin bringing the balloons to the party + links!
✚ A very dreamy lookbook shot in a gorgeous location.
✚ How to follow all your favorite blogs in a snap!
✚ A stunning new lookbook with pretty dresses and a conservation celebration!
✚ A sweet new lookbook with lovely clothing, roses and a topknot.
✚ My cozy little bedroom, long weekend plans, links and thanks!
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All photos by Jen McCabe.
Aren’t these roses beautiful? I bought them last night after finally seeing Hugo (love it! fantastique!) with the Mr. It’s amazing how much of a mood lifter it always is to have pretty pink flowers greet you in every room. I still feel a bit raw from earlier this week and I’m looking forward to a fresh outlook and sprucing up the nest this weekend–fluffing pillows, hanging artwork and making things dazzle a little more. Oh! A few days ago I sent my guest post to Diana–please keep an eye on her blog next week! Have a lovely weekend and thanks for hanging out with me. xo
➔ SOME WONDERFUL LINKS
✚ A beautiful rosy scarf.
✚ I want to paint my bedroom this color.
✚ This sweet post makes my Irish eyes happy. I wish my grandfather was still here–he’d be absolutely thrilled!
✚ Enter this LOVELY VINTAGE GIVEAWAY!
✚ I’m thinking of just staying in bed all weekend to re-watch all these movies.
✚ Ummm… HELLO, cognac mustard!
✚ A VERY BEAUTIFUL TOP!
✚ Adorable dress for a wee one.
✚ I love this pretty cuff.
✚ These three girls are SO TALENTED! This post made me happy.
✚ Beautiful artwork from Ana.
✚ I LOVE THESE EARRINGS!
✚ I’m so happy Grace spoke her mind in the comments. I completely agree.
✚ Such a cute sailor dress!
✚ Stunning little necklace.
➔ I HEART PDX
✚ Help the animals! Today is the rad First Friday event at Sword + Fern with Amy Sacks Eyewear from 6–9pm. See Emily’s cool new designs for eyeglass chains. Proceeds go to benefit The Pixie Project and their mission to rescue animals. 811 E. Burnside #114, Portland
✚ Stars Antiques is having their big Stars On Sale event starting today, March 2, and running through Monday, March 5. They have great discounts on awesome vintage during their sales events!! Stop by! They plan this event to coincide with the big Palmer/Wirfs antiques expo so people can live the vintage dream for an extended weekend. 7027 SE Milwaukie Avenue in beautiful Portland!
Image by me, Jen McCabe! Find me on Instagram: honeykennedy
Here is what’s been going on around here lately. I’ve been so distracted by trying to get ready to go on my trip at the end of the week–I haven’t been taking many photos. I’ll be taking a lot of photos in New York though–I’m always bombarded by inspiration when I visit. Are you on Instagram? I’m there as honeykennedy–if you want to see what I’m up to on my trip or you can follow my stream online or see the tweets on Twitter!
I finally got around to making the lavender hot chocolate from my The GOOD Hot Chocolate roundup post. Actually, I combined a couple of the recipes and made lavender/Earl Grey hot chocolate. It was heavenly! I highly recommend it!
YUM. I also subbed in a 1/4 cup of cream in place 1/4 cup of milk. It was soupy and rich! I’m sure this recipe would be great with coconut milk or almond milk, too. And… yes, I own one of those cafe whipped cream canisters. It has really been fun to have around the house!
I stopped by Ink & Peat and that Bella soap smells like sunshine!
And then THIS happened. Really good. I’m not wild about Nutella and this is great! It isn’t as sweet or oily tasting like I find Nutella to be. I’m guessing this is better for you, too. Maybe?
I picked up some coffee at Heart Coffee Roasters for some of my friends in NY. I love their coffee AND the people who work there are super helpful, too!
Images by me, Jen McCabe. Honey Kennedy on Instagram.