Still We Rise

YES!! We need more of this! So excited about the Still We Rise Auction over on instagram to benefit ACLU, RAICES, and Texas Civil Rights Project. It’s often hard to know how to help when you are overwhelmed with anxiety and too much bad news. Lindsay’s Still We Rise auctions are making it really simple and a beautiful process that also brings wonderful artists and designers into view. You can bid now through Monday, July 9! ♥

There are a few days left Here is a handy list auction FAQs to look over. Get a cup of something good and come BID ON THESE BEAUTIES and fight for individuals and families at the border seeking asylum and searching for their babies that were snatched by the increasingly heartless Trump White House Republicans.

Here are a just few of my fave auction and there are SO MANY GOOD THINGS

Happy Spring + A Personal Update

Hello friends! As you may have noticed, I’ve been out of commission for longer than originally anticipated when I signed off for the new year. Thank you so much for all the emails and messages on social media — it has really meant a lot. I’m OK. I’ve just been going through some physical and mental health issues and really needed to tend to them with the kind of love and compassion I usually only reserve for other people (I know, I know… I’m working on it!).

Near the end of 2017, I started having a lot of pain in my left arm that was exacerbated by being on my laptop for many hours at a time. I started seeing my chiropractor, then a sports medicine arm specialist, then a physical therapist. I had been trying to focus on getting the care and being diligent with my exercises to get my arm back to normal, but any relief has been temporary and the regimens and schedules have been exhausting. So frustrating.

After months of this work, I finally had an MRI of my neck. The MRI shows that I have two discs that are compressing the nerve that goes across my left shoulder blade and down my left arm. It was good to figure out what the issue has been, but I’d be lying if I said I wasn’t scared about what this finding means. I will most likely need spine surgery.

It took a while to be able to get in with a spine specialist since the doctor I had been seeing was an arm specialist. The neurosurgeon I finally met with recently says he thinks I will need ACDF surgery — which is definitely not the minimally invasive variety I was hoping it would be. I am seeing another specialist soon for a second opinion to weigh my options and plan the timing that works best for surgery and recovery. Fortunately, I was prescribed a medication that has helped soften some of the nerve pain I’ve been experiencing and the neurosurgeon says that I’m not in an emergency situation and should be able to plan to have surgery for whenever it works for my little family this year.

I’m so happy to be back to blogging. It has been a difficult time with lots of pain and dark days, but being here sure pulls me back up and I’m certainly not mad at this spring sunshine! Thank you all for sticking with me during this cuckoo time in my life — I cannot tell you how much it means to me. I’ve got a lot of posts in the works as I’m getting back into the swing of things. I probably won’t be back to blogging every single day until fall, but I’ll be here sharing as much and as often as possible. I hope you’re all doing well! xx Jen

P.S. If any of you out there has had spinal issues or has any advice because of what loved ones have gone through — I’d love to hear about it! Thank you! ♥

Happy New Year!

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Happiest New Year to you all! I’m so grateful for you joining me here — it means so much to me. Truly. It’s been such a tough year and the next one doesn’t look to be getting any easier with the people in power. I am working on my New Year’s Intentions list to post in the next couple weeks, but my heart is just so thankful for unity and community. Most of us aim to be on the right side of history and knowing that is what keeps hope alive for the triumph of decency and progress. Knowing that there are more good people than bad is a potent energy. Sending you all lots and lots of love. I’m going to keep it light and take some much needed time off in January, but I’ll definitely be popping in for some posts. I hope you make room for some self-care, too! xoxo Jen

SOME VERY LOVELY LINKS…

♥ Make sure to ENTER MY EGG PRESS GIVEAWAY! It ends next week.

♥ Take some time to curl up and peruse The Best of Honey Kennedy 2017!

♥ I put together these NYE HAIR IDEAS for you.

♥ If you’re on the hunt for your pretty NYE RED LIPSTICK!

♥ CHEERS! To CHAMPAGNE COCKTAILS & THE GLASSWARE.

♥ If you want some GOOD BOOZE IDEAS.

♥ And… MORE COCKTAILS & MOCKTAILS!

♥ I should do another soon — here are a bunch of MUSIC MIXES.

♥ If you’d rather stay home, here is my BIG LIST OF LOVELY BOOKS.

A SWEET DEAL:

♥ Fleur lovers! The amazing Floret seeds and dahlias go on sale on January 2nd! Be quick!

♥ Buy 2 of these magic self-care potions and get $20 off your total for a limited time!

♥ Get 20% off all the these jewels at Rebecca Mir Grady with GOODBYE2017 thru 12/31/17.

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♥ Get 20% off everything at Wood & Faulk with code: AFTER thru 12/31/17.

♥ Get 20% off everything at Project Object with VERYLASTMINUTE thru 12/31/17.

♥ Get 15% off all those textiles from Flutter that I mentioned! Out of town? Give them a call.

♥ Get 40% off all these cozy styles with code: BIGONE now thru 12/31.

♥ Take an extra 30% off these final sale items with BIGONE thru 12/31/17.

♥ Take an extra 30% off all these sale styles with code: YESPLEASE thru 1/4/18.

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PHOTOS: Lana Turner looking like a badass queen in The Prodigal. Also, #bedgoals.

Friday!

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Well, this was another week was full of triggers and things that make you want to scream. I again want to send out love to everyone else out there feeling the weight of patriarchy trying to crush our spirits. Don’t stop the fight, don’t stop resisting, but DO take care of your mind and body and spirit. Take a break. Take a walk. Find a way to help empower and back the issues you find most important without putting yourself constantly in the maelstrom of hate. I need to take my own advice here, too. It’s hard when every impulse in your body is in fight or flight. It isn’t sustainable. Take the time to enjoy the moments and the season and your loved ones or you will run out of steam. I love you. You are valued. You are important. You are smart. You are strong. You are powerful. Take care of your wonderful self. xx Jen

➔ SOME VERY LOVELY LINKS…

♥ Today I stand with Rose McGowan and other women and I am staying off Twitter.

♥ Take a moment to sign this petition to start dismantling Hollywood’s misogyny.

♥ I got these awesome Black History Flashcards — things they didn’t teach us in school.

♥ The Somna aromatherapy roll-on is so nice if you’re having trouble sleeping.

♥ And the Aurora roll-on is good when you need to perk up.

♥ This lovely face cream is an investment in dry sensitive skin, but it feels amazing.

♥ I’m so happy with this magical eye cream — the best I’ve ever used.

♥ This cotton dress for fall with tights and booties or high boots would be super cute.

♥ I might get this velvet dress, but would give it a straight hem. (40% off: HAPPY)

♥ I bought this boxy velvet top in both colors and I LOVE it. (40% off: HAPPY)

♥ Love this new easy fit batwing top that Rebecca designed.

♥ So cute! I’m feeling this batik grid print gaucho jumpsuit.

♥ I bought this velvet swing jacket in black and it’s really cute. (40% off: HAPPY)

♥ This tailored velvet jacket is a good closet staple to make an outfit more put together.

♥ I drank this season’s velvet kool-aid and I love this velvet bomber jacket.

♥ This cropped jacket is so cute. It reminds me of a perfect vintage one I had years ago.

♥ I love this boiled wool wrap coat in black and in moss.

♥ This swingy Italian wool coat looks super cozy for the chilly days ahead.

♥ So many pretty handmade bridle leather belts for such a good price! (20% off: FF20)

♥ I love these classic pjs in both navy and pink!

♥ If it has to be socks season, they should be cute socks like these.

♥ I’m becoming a little obsessed with the stunning Fragment Cuff Bracelet.

♥ This nudie lapel pin is so nice. (13% off: THIRTEEN)

♥ SO GOOD. Love these perfect hoop earrings.

♥ All these dreamy Turkish kilim pillows, please! (20% off: FFSALE17)

♥ I love the full moon vibes of this glowing globe table lamp.

♥ My friend Emily just released her Snow & Rose book! It’s so sweet and beautiful.

♥ I’m so in love with Kelsey’s clever and gorgeous What We See in the Stars book.

♥ I think we might all need a confetti cannon every day right now.

➔ A SWEET DEAL

♥ Get 20% off everything at Wild Poppy Goods with code FFSALE17 now thru 10/16.

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♥ Get 13% off everything at Project Object with code THIRTEEN thru 10/13.

♥ Get 13% off all the jewels at Upper Metal Class with code THIRTEEN thru 10/13.

♥ Get 30% off the Turquoise Thetis Ring by Rebecca Mir Grady w/ OCTOBERRING thru 10/31.

♥ Get free worldwide shipping on all Elizabeth Suzann orders. No code needed!

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♥ Get free U.S. shipping at Shop Boswell on orders of $100+

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PHOTOS: Audrey Hepburn on the set while filming Breakfast at Tiffany’s.

My 2017 Intentions

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Happy New Year, friends. I’m back after taking a little time off to try to take care of my heart. We had to make the heartbreaking choice to put our dear dog, Zelda, to sleep before her increasingly complicated medical conditions pushed her into a painful and traumatic heart episode. She was there with me during the hardest times I’ve ever been through and she was the being that I spent the most time with over the past thirteen years. I knew it would be devastating, but I wasn’t prepared to face how much I truly needed her spirit, sweetness, and tactile, unconditional love. To be honest, I’m still feeling a bit lost in the woods right now.

This loss, combined with the rise of fascism and dementia in our country has created a perfect storm of sadness, anger, fear, love, and defiance in my belly. This makes my 2017 intentions based in digging my heels in, getting stronger physically and mentally, and trying to help hold up the people in this space, in my local community, and around me. It’s about building strength in mind, body, spirit, and character.

Please let me know what you think and I’d LOVE to hear your intentions, resolutions, and thoughts about 2017 and the current state of the world. You all inspire me so much. ♥

MY 2017 INTENTIONS…

Continue supporting and promoting independent businesses. In this space and in my every day life. I’m not going to lie, I’ve struggled a lot with my sense of purpose here since the election and inauguration. With so much tumult and the blatant crimes against humanity and our country happening right before our eyes, it’s been hard to jump into the fray and talk about fashion and lifestyle. The reality is that I am proud to have a space that celebrates independently owned businesses that are primarily owned and operated by women. After a lot of thought, I’ve come to the understanding that what I do here is important and maybe even more so now with corporations and billionaires riding our backs and being given even more tax breaks. I’m in this and I don’t want to stop talking about design, art, home, and the talented people creating it all. That said, I’m going to add in more talk about feelings, the resistance, charitable dollars, community events, and ways to help.

Make sure to spend time on self-care. Mantra: “You can’t fight in the resistance if you don’t take care of yourself.” When I’m overwhelmed by the world around me, I suck at basic personal care. I’ve learned through counseling that growing up without emotional support, respect, or validation at home makes me inherently more likely than others to drop taking care of myself when things get tough. I’ve also learned that one of the biggest triggers for me is gaslighting and the fight or flight anxiety that comes with recognizing it from a mile away. Survivors of malignant narcissist parents out there know what I’m talking about.

Help others spend time on self-care. Talking more about what I’m doing to create self-care rituals and routines might help others with their own personal care. Also, checking in with my friends to make sure they are remembering to do it too and seeing if I can help.

Take better care of my people. I want to participate even more in my community and stay more tuned in to the lives of my friends and family. Texting, calling, emailing, checking in, and making plans to hang out, meet, and march.

Get fit. Mantra: “Float like a butterfly, sting like a bee.” I want to lose some weight, get much stronger physically, become more agile, and take some self-defense classes.

Feed my brain. Read more books and articles that help prepare for what’s happening now and the years to come. I also love listening to audiobooks when driving. I don’t particularly want to be listening to the Hitler: Ascent 1889-1939 audiobook right now, but I feel stronger when I’m more informed about history and what we’re up against, so I will. It has been widely reported for decades that our new president obsessively studies Hitler’s speeches and ascent (starting long before he ran for office) and the parallels are all there, unfortunately. I also just picked up A Train In Winter — An Extraordinary Story of Women, Friendship, and Resistance In Occupied France. I’m thinking about taking some language classes, too.

Learn about foster to adopt. I’d appreciate any advice. It’s an avenue to becoming a parent that I wasn’t open to in the past because of fear of more heartbreak, but I feel ready to pursue this and learn about the process. All help and insight in this matter is very welcome!

Get personal. I have some life experiences that could help other people not feel so alone and maybe help others understand where some feelings might come from. A few topics I’d like to talk about: Childlessness and feelings of alienation, surviving a narcissistic parent, gaslighting, fertility/infertility and the assumptions people make, what not to say to people who can’t have children, the intersectional feminist need for others to support and show up for people who can’t have children, friendship, and lots more.

Amplify and show up. I talked about this a bit after the election — read HERE. I want to help amplify the voices of people of color, women, LGBTQ people, and the fight against ableism. I want to continue to address my own ingrained privilege and show up to marches in my city to show support for the people who have struggles I don’t have to deal with because I am a white, middle class, heterosexual, cisgender lady. I will also continue to call out the subtle ingrained sexism of my well-meaning, liberal people around me. I feel like I can just do better at intersectional feminism.

Get my house in order. Enough with the nonsense. I want to purge, clean, and organize every corner of our home. I am an HSP that finds clutter, mess, unfinished projects, and excess chaotic and ultimately stifling for creativity, work, progress, and happiness. I want to be realistic and remove known obstacles to my own productivity. This includes some disaster supply preparedness, protecting important documents, and updating passports. Become a better planner!

Garden and go for long walks every day. These two things help me sort out my place in the world and provide so much relief and joy. Now I see that committing to doing them falls under self-care and self-love.

Make art. Picking up paints, pens, and pencils helps me light up parts of my brain that are clever and kind and spry.

Travel. We haven’t been on a trip in a really long time. Seeing new vistas helps recharge my spirit and strength. Go see friends near and far. And plan some romantic getaways.

Remember that I am loved by some truly wonderful people. Even if my mind tells me something different and even if it doesn’t include some of the people I wish it did. I’m working on it. ♥

PHOTO: Tallulah Bankhead. “Like her family, Bankhead was a Democrat, but broke with many Southerners by campaigning for Harry Truman’s reelection in 1948. She is credited with having helped Truman immeasurably by belittling his rival, New York’s Governor Thomas E. Dewey. After Truman was elected, Bankhead was invited to sit with the President during his inauguration. While viewing the inauguration parade, she booed the South Carolina float which carried then-Governor and segregationist Strom Thurmond, who had recently run against Truman on the Dixiecrat ticket. Tallulah hailed from the Brockman Bankheads, a prominent Alabama political family — her grandfather and uncle were U.S. Senators and her father served as Speaker of the House of Representatives. Tallulah’s support of liberal causes such as civil rights broke with the tendency of the Southern Democrats to support a more conservative agenda and she often openly opposed her own family publicly.”